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Variables - Geek Dating Advice

Written By: David A Hill Jr
Date: 16 Dec 2009

Let me talk about geek dating. I think that almost everything I’ve read about ‘finding a geek girl’ is bullshit at best, insulting at worst. In fact, most of the advice I’ve seen either paints the guy or the girl in the equation as a total loser, trying to hook up with someone they don’t deserve to be around. Most also fall on a few common misconceptions about what a relationship is.

I’ve dated a number of geeks. I’ve had successful and fulfilling relationships with a number of them. While I consider myself very friendly to women’s issues, I like sex. Understand that. I have no problems with a good one-night stand so long as both parties understand going in (or at least I didn’t have problems with them. Now I’m in a happily committed relationship,) but initiating a one-night stand is fundamentally different than dating.

So let’s debunk a few myths:

Myth: Pickup lines work.

Almost every woman has heard their fair share of pickup lines. This article suggests using a ‘geek-friendly’ pickup line, “No way a hot girl like you has such mad skillz.” Total bullshit.

A good pickup line can move you towards a one-night stand. But it communicates to the female that you’re interested in moving quickly into physical intimacy. Also, that’s not a good pickup line. So you’re burned on both counts.

Myth: They want a guy that’s direct.

That’s a partial myth. They don’t like “The Nice Guy™.” If you even remotely think that you can’t get a date because you’re a Nice Guy, immediately go read this post by the hypertalented DivaLion. If you don’t get it, well… I’ll do an article on that later if you’re interested in solving your problems.

Don’t beat around the bush, but don’t be pushy. Make it clear that you’re not just trying to be friends. Often times, geeky types on both sides of the gender fence are more than a little insecure. They have to be comfortable with a person before pursuing a relationship. Taking it slow is not being old-fashioned.

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This is a wonderful article. I have 7 Reasons On Why You Should Date A Geek Ladies might wanna know it! Geeks rocks!
Posted by anneleah on 17 May 2010 08:19
Wow. You have no idea what Ramen is? It's literally one of the most eaten foods in the world. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ramen It's a cheap staple for college students and poor people world-wide, and a very common food for all in Japan. It's tasty, but very overdone in some peoples' diets. It's certainly something you should try once in your life at least.

You're very welcome. I'm glad you like the article.
Posted by David A Hill Jr on 5 January 2010 03:06
I have no idea what ramen even is. Enjoyed the article, thanks David.
Posted by on 5 January 2010 03:04
Chicks are just as deserving of Ramen recipes. I think I know what I'm doing next week. Hell, I may dedicate some thought into regular Easy Geek Recipes.
Posted by David A Hill Jr on 17 December 2009 08:58
i may be a chick, but I can go for some badassery where the ramen is involved...
Posted by AMii H on 17 December 2009 08:48
Whoa! Pope?

You remember that? There's only a few people in the world that still do. Kudos on that.
Posted by David A Hill Jr on 17 December 2009 05:18
right on pope!
Posted by karen on 17 December 2009 05:13
By all means. I figure in my next follow-up article, I'll specifically mention your service.
Posted by David A Hill Jr on 17 December 2009 03:42
Great article! Mind if I add this to my Geek's Guide to Online Dating page on my site? I want to start a list of great resources outside of my site and this one would be perfect. :-)
Posted by E. Foley - Geek's Dream Girl on 17 December 2009 03:19

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